There are still women currently in their mid-20s who are afraid of commitment. They are still at a stage where they just want to grab opportunities for introspective and adventurous experiences of singledom. They do have a backpack of alibis or reasons why they still stay single but bottom line, they feel they are not ready yet and worse, afraid of being “tied down”. Some would even avoid it completely because the mere idea of being with someone forever scares them.
Their circle of friends probably
have settled down or have plans to tie it down with their significant others,
but these women are too cautious when entering into a relationship and would
prefer to take things real slow, explore who they really are and what they want to
be.
So who’s afraid of commitment? Raising my own hand
here. A checklist of why’s provided may make you understand us more.
1. We are quick to put our guards up. Right?
…especially if we think our feelings are starting to catch up with us. Just a little sense of it, we are already preparing the walls to rise?
…especially if we think our feelings are starting to catch up with us. Just a little sense of it, we are already preparing the walls to rise?
2. We are not fond of pet names
…because that can lead to attachment and before you know it, you’re already in too deep!
…because that can lead to attachment and before you know it, you’re already in too deep!
3. Most our friends are nagging us to lock it down
with the person we are currently dating.
“Um, nope. I’m fine with dating here and there. Besides, what if he/she is not the one? Okay, stop right there.”
“Um, nope. I’m fine with dating here and there. Besides, what if he/she is not the one? Okay, stop right there.”
4. Our family seems to think you’ll never find
Mr. Right.
..because they think the formers are good stuffs and what’s left are leftovers.
..because they think the formers are good stuffs and what’s left are leftovers.
5. Those three 'magical' words scare us.
“I love you” = “Will you marry me?”
“I love you” = “Will you marry me?”
6. But what’s more terrifying is the
“M” word
…which stands for “marriage.” When
the topic is brought up, you go silent and brush it off with a nervous laugh.
7. We’ve been told to
be less cynical.
..but
you’re just protecting your heart, right?
8. We’ve been tagged as “cold and numb”.
..because
you don’t want to feel anything because when you do, it’s like you are starting
to lower your guards down.
9. We panic when the guy we’re dating asks to be
exclusive
…or when he asks you to meet his friends and family because that only means things are escalating to something more serious.
…or when he asks you to meet his friends and family because that only means things are escalating to something more serious.
10. Well, committing to a serious
relationship has crossed our minds
..but there’s this big BUTs and WHAT IFs.
..but there’s this big BUTs and WHAT IFs.
When you feel it that he’s the one
and the connection is strong, it should be about time to face our fears. To be
loved by someone the way we’ve always wanted and to love someone who made us
believe that we are a woman of worth and should settle with him, not carrying
the fear alone but working it out to dissolve that fear. We deserve better and
they too.
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