I don't mind being single. I don't mind not having a commitment. I don't mind not having a wedding ring to meddle my finger with.
But sometimes, I just want someone to hold my pieces tight when i'm about to fall apart, someone to hold my hands gently when i'm scared, someone to share my fears and wildest dreams with.
I don't mind being alone, but there's a part of me that wonders how nice it must feel to have someone who shows you that love isn't such a bad thing.
It is not being on my own that is so scary, having someone is a
good thing but the realization that someone you thought was yours wasn’t and
you are actually on your own. After all, the process is something I am afraid
to feel and the emotions that comes along with it.
I am not afraid of being myself, it’s the thought of not being
accepted of what I am and trying to change me to someone I’m not. I don’t work
that way.
There are still women currently in their mid-20s who are afraid of commitment. They are still at a stage where they just want to grab opportunities for introspective and adventurous experiences of singledom. They do have a backpack of alibis or reasons why they still stay single but bottom line, they feel they are not ready yet and worse, afraid of being “tied down”. Some would even avoid it completely because the mere idea of being with someone forever scares them.
1. Real love makes us feel vulnerable. A new relationship is uncharted territory, and most of us have natural fears of the unknown. Letting ourselves fall in love means taking a real risk. We are placing a great amount of trust in another person, allowing them to affect us, which makes us feel exposed and vulnerable. Our core defenses are challenged. Any habits we’ve long had that allow us to feel self-focused or self-contained start to fall by the wayside. We tend to believe that the more we care, the more we can get hurt.
